I totally agree, Mrs... I'm tired of competing with people with more skill, younger, etc. I know expediting, and after 4 years out, I decided to get back in... but as an o/o. I spent a month looking for ways to get a truck, and I found a guy looking to get rid of his. It's costing me some bucks as I'm paying for it over two years, but it's MY truck... and MY business... and MY decisions. I've driven for some great owners before... and some who gave me excuses instead of money. No guessing here.
Making money from your own truck is a great feeling (even though I haven't gotten on the road yet) but it's also a headache. Some people just shouldn't take the chance of owning their own truck. They don't have the mind of how the lanes for each company works... and they find out too slow. I remember Roberts Express... their dispatch wouldn't help you for squat. This couple I met near Dayton, OH was freaking. They were running out of money, but wouldn't take a short run. I asked them why they wouldn't being that it payed 1.30/mile and they said it wasn't long enough. They instead took a run to Houston paying .80/mile. That is why they were failing. They saw the end numbers only.
Mrs... tell Mr that he needs to learn how Jung thinks and where and when their freight pops up. If he's down the street from the shipper, Jung will call him first. And being that Jung is small now, he'll learn that relatively fast. And always remember not to take a load that you lose money on (unless it gets you back from bfe).
Good luck to you both!